You did your research and found a midwife you love. You read the studies, went to the classes, and took care of your body and baby.

You did all the right things and yet somehow you have to hear us say, “It’s time to go the hospital”.

We don’t like saying that sentence because we know its not what you wanted or worked for. However, this is the reason you hired a midwife. There is someone present to identify when it is time to move on to a new birth location. You and your babies safety is always our first priority so when the call needs to be made we do it.

So what do you do when transport is necessary?

1. First of all tell yourself one thing! You are not a failure. This is so important I am going to say it again. You are NOT a failure!. You have made the best decision for you and your babys’ safety. I don’t care what the circumstances are. Maybe labor was too long and you are exhausted and get an epidural. Maybe baby doesn’t like being in labor. Or perhaps your water has been broken for too long. Whatever the reason you are not a failure.

2. You still have rights and choices. Be your own advocate! Want delayed cord clamping or no eye ointment? Say so! Of course be respectful but you are still in control of your care!

3. Process. This may is not have been what you desired. You of course are thrilled with a healthy baby but it is okay to mourn the fact you didn’t get the birth experience you wanted. Talk it out with your partner and midwives. We are here for you!

Did you have to transport to a hospital? How did you handle it? What helped you through the change in plans?